Category Archives: Grace

Forgive yourself

“In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace,” (Ephesians 1:7)

In the “take your own devotions seriously” category, the day after my devotions reminded us, among other things, to pray about everything and always ask God for direction and his opinion, I let my husband talk me into going out to some marketing class on Saturday morning when I’d wanted to spend a relaxing day at home.  In a classic, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but the end thereof is death” moment, we ran off the way that seemed right, without praying and asking God as I’d been warned to just the day before, and naturally we never made it to where we were going.

Obviously, we’re both alive and in one piece, thank God, albeit somewhat battered, but our car is done for, our finances are taking a huge hit, and my poor husband feels awful about all this, especially that I have a concussion that knocked me out of my wits for about five hours on Saturday. He blames himself, but he shouldn’t. It was really my fault. Rather than simply heeding my husband’s voice, I should have insisted we pray and seek direction from God. If we had, he might have told us to say home. We’ll never know now. But I hope I’ve learned my lesson–and that we’ll forgive ourselves, since I doubt my husband will buy my attempt to relieve his sense of guilt. :) But we must, regardless, not pridefully make ourselves more righteous than God. If He has forgiven us, we must also forgive us.

We trespassed, we failed, but there is forgiveness and redemption through the blood of Christ and a wealth of grace that He lavishes upon us. Let us learn from our mistakes, pick ourselves up, and move on in Him.

Lord, take our failures and mistakes and through your grace and mercy, redeem them for your glory. I pray you would be glorified and lifted up as you bring good out of evil. Strengthen us to forgive ourselves and grow in wisdom and a closer walk with you. Teach us your way and guard our step in you. I pray we would walk circumspectly, not assuming, but seeking your direction on all things. May we grow in discipline. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Follow After Peace

By Adam Graham
Since the earliest churches, many believers have thought, “Wouldn’t it be great if everyone were like us?” This is opposed to thinking, “Wouldn’t it be great if everyone were like Christ?”

The first group like this was the Judaizers, who sought to make early Gentile converts comply with Old Testament ceremonial laws. The Apostle Paul severely criticized the Judaizers’ legalism in requiring the works of the law for salvation in addition to the cross. Paul’s ire at them may be summed up in Galatians 5:12 (ESV): “I wish those who unsettle you would emasculate themselves!”

Paul’s concern with legalism goes further than just those who would require Christians to become Jews, as he prophecies in 1 Timothy 4:1-5:

Now the Spirit speaketh expressly that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits and doctrines of devils, speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their conscience seared with a hot iron, forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. For every creature of God is good, and nothing is to be refused if it be received with thanksgiving; for it is sanctified by the Word of God and prayer.

Throughout history, some have done these exact things and some Christians continue to. However, Paul also spoke against those who would use Christian Liberty as a license to sin. (Romans 6) and he discussed with some detail a third group also still with us.

This third group exercises their Christian liberty, expects everyone else to also, and looks down on those who don’t. For example, the man who can have a glass or two of wine and control himself looks down on the teetotaler, accusing him of legalism even though the teetotaler also believes he is saved by grace, not by works. The woman who sends her kids off to public school to win souls looks down on her neighbor who homeschools, accusing her of sheltering her children and keeping them from being effective witnesses.

The issues were different in the Roman church, but the general trend was the same. Reading Romans 14, it appears there was a battle between what Paul called the “weaker” brethren with their convictions which forbade them from eating meat and often required observance of feast days, and the stronger brothers who felt no compunction about eating meat and no need to observe the feast days of a foreign culture.

Paul doesn’t explain what had happened. From his prescription, however, we can ascertain some of the weaker brothers judged the stronger and that some of the stronger judged the weaker. Perhaps, there was even some pressure for the weaker brethren to conform. He might say, as Paul would to the Corinthians, “an idol is nothing” regarding concerns about the meat available to them having been offered to idols. The stronger might even have invited the weaker brother over to his house to share in the meat. This itself may have given rise to legalism among the weaker as a defensive measure. As most American Christians will tell you, there’s only one resolution to this sort of problem.

A church split.

In Romans 14:1-6, Paul offers something radically different to these early believers:

Receive ye him that is weak in the faith, but not to judge his doubtful disputations. For one believeth that he may eat all things, while another who is weak eateth herbs. Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not; and let not him that eateth not, judge him that eateth; for God hath received him.

Who art thou who judgest another man’s servant? To his own master he standeth or falleth; yea, he shall be held up, for God is able to make him stand. One man esteemeth one day above another; another esteemeth every day alike. Let every man be fully persuaded in his own mind. (KJ21)

The solution according to Paul is to receive one another and to not judge one another regarding things not true matters of sin, but of personal conscience. “Let every man be persuaded in his own mind,” also is key here. I don’t need to persuade you of my convictions, and you do not need to persuade me of yours. Paul writes in verses verses fourteen through sixteen:

I know, and am persuaded by the Lord Jesus, that there is nothing unclean of itself; but to him that regardeth anything to be unclean, to him it is unclean. But if thy brother be grieved because of thy meat, thou walkest no longer charitably. Destroy not with thy meat him for whom Christ died. Let not your good be spoken of as evil.

Verse fifteen is an opportunity for the weaker brother to claim to be aggrieved by your exercise of Christian liberty, but in context that’s not what the passage means. It refers to pressuring someone to engage in activities (such as eating certain food or going to certain concerts) that the weaker brother believes is wrong. One interesting thought on verse fifteen comes from Wesley who remarks, regarding the second clause, “Do not value thy meat more than Christ valued his life.” Ouch.

In verses seventeen and eighteen, Paul brings us back to what matters most, writing, “For the Kingdom of God is not meat and drink, but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Ghost. For he that in these things serveth Christ is acceptable to God and approved by men.

What matters to God is not the extra-scriptural externals that often bog us down in fratricidal warfare. God accepts both the weak and the strong who serve Him faithfully. Romans 14:19 says, “Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and the things wherewith one may edify another.”

Following after peace sounds so wonderful as Paul writes it. Yet, it is so easy to fall into the trap of judging others with different convictions than us on disputable matters. We can mitigate this by being aware of our own tendency to make choices that lead to contention rather than to peace.

Adam Graham is the poignant and usually witty author of the novel Tales of the Dim Knight from Splashdown Books. He writes for Pajamasmedia.com, laserandsword.com, and hosts the Great Detectives of Old Time Radio podcast. He lives with his wife and writing partner, Andrea Graham, with their cat Joybell in Boise, Idaho.

Live Like You’ve Chosen Eternal Life, not Death

“For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)

Sin leads to death: physical death, spiritual death, death of relationship, etc. Any time something dies, it is the wages of sin–Adam’s in the garden at minimum.  But this law no longer has the last word. Oh death, where is your victory? Oh grave, where is your sting?

Because the Lord’s tomb is empty, and sin is nailed to the cross, this physical life is not the end, His Spirit can live in us, we are restored to relationship with Him and sometimes with each other–not as often as it should happen, but new beginnings are possible at the cross. Eternal life is a freely bestowed gift–to those of us in Jesus Christ, our Lord.

Let’s show we’re truly grateful today for his gift. And honor him as Lord, not merely out of obligation and fear of hell, but out of love. Lets no longer sow death into our temporal lives; lets truly seek to live in Christ and walk as Jesus walks. He’s made the impossible possible, so lets embrace his power at work in us today, the grace available to live like we have eternal life.

Lord, thank you for your amazing gift. Thank you for setting us free. Strengthen us today to walk in your ways. Show us if there is any wicked way in us you want us to turn from and give up today. Give us the desire and the hunger and the passion to become like you today. We don’t want to live like we did when we were sold to death. Show us in our lives and our own hearts what it means to live like we have eternal life, to live like a citizen of Heaven. Remove all our fears, so only gratitude for your finished work and desire to be like you would motivate us. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Revisit the Fundamental Truths

“Like newborn infants, long for the pure spiritual milk, that by it you may grow up into salvation— if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is good.” (1 Peter 2:2-3

Going in, I find myself assuming Peter must have been talking to a brand new church and brand new Christians, since Paul slammed a church for still crawling around in diapers, drinking milk, and not able to digest the meat and potatoes he felt they ought to have been ready for.

Perhaps this is meant rather as a reminder to take stock from time to time of the spiritual essentials we think we already know, to remember the truths essential to our spiritual growth, the grace that saves us. The human heart is wicked and deceptive and can harbor fears and doubts, or even bitterness and anger, that we thought we dismissed and/or expelled, because we intellectually know better.

Meat and potatoes are good (spiritually speaking), but let’s be sure we serving them (or being served them) with a good old fashioned glass of milk, too.

Lord, we thank you for your word, we thank you for grace and forgiveness. We thank you that we don’t have to earn your love by jumping through hoops, bringing home a report card full of As, or a trophy room full of medals, or any other human measure of achievement. We thank you for your ministry of reconciliation that is changing us back into your image, and the rebirth you are still working in us. In your eyes, we don’t need to prove our worth with a great platform or the perfect resume, nor  do we have to justify to you any of the resources you provide us to sustain us, either spiritually or physically. We open our hearts to receive a deeper understanding of the fundamentals we already have down pat intellectually. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Balancing Act

Do not hate a fellow Israelite in your heart. Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in their guilt. Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD. Lev 19:17,18

Quite odd verses to put together. It appears to be saying: Don’t hate your fellow Christian in your heart, but rebuke them openly, for looking the other way at sin makes you complicit in it. Don’t take revenge or bear grudges, but love your neighbor as yourself. It’s odd to us because we have often been led to believe by the world that love does look the other way, that love is open minded and tolerant and accepting. A love that calls sin what it is and shows others their faults (between you and  him alone) while being gracious, forgiving, bearing no grudge and seeking no retribution leaves heads scratching whichever way we tend to fail in this area.

Narrow is the way? No kidding, sometimes I’m not sure if the Lord’s way is more a balance beam or a high wire act. But I know we are working with a net.

Lord, thank you for your grace. I pray we would not take advantage, but seek to walk in grace and love as you define it. Give us boldness and wisdom to what to speak and when. Show us any anger or frustration or bitterness we need to open up to you about and release to you  today, so we can love others as you love us. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Don’t be ashamed of suffering Christians

“Therefore do not be ashamed of the testimony about our Lord, nor of me his prisoner, but share in suffering for the gospel by the power of God,who saved us and called us to a holy calling, not because of our works but because of his own purpose and grace, which he gave us in Christ Jesus before the ages began,” (2 Timothy 1:8-9)

Verse eight is not nearly as popular as verse nine. We much prefer the assurance  we’re saved by grace not by works, to the context of this verse. We tend to avoid suffering, not want to share in the suffering of others. Our idea of comforting and encouraging someone frankly often comes across to the hurting as “get over it” because, frankly, we want them to get over it and stop making us uncomfortable.

Empathizing, entering into their pain, crying with them, lamenting with them, rather than rushing them to “praise God” and “glory be”, how many of us actually do that? Even fewer than those of us who wouldn’t be tempted to turn on a believer imprisoned because of their work for the Lord. Surely they’re bad people and misguided, bad Christians and that’s why they’re in jail. The media, after all, told us so.

Don’t be deceived. Misguided or not, they have a record for same reason the Apostle Paul would have one today. Don’t be ashamed of their testimony and standing up for scriptural truth as best as they understand it.

We are not saved by our works, the scripture is clear we are saved by Grace–for the work the Lord purposed for us to do. He calls and equips us to holiness.  We are saved from sin, not saved so we can sin. If you’re using grace today as an excuse to sit on your duff, ignore his call, and ignore what the holy spirit is instructing you to do, cut it out.

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Lord, where are you leading us? What are you calling us to do? Open our hearts and our ears to hear your voice and obey you out of love, not fear of condemnation and hell. Forgive us for the times we’ve been ashamed or have turned our faces away from suffering or unwittingly heaped on others suffering with “encouragement” that condemns them for hurting. Give us wisdom and show us how to enter in to others suffering as you lead. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Unlike Some Fathers, God Loves Unconditionally

“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:38-39)

As we observed yesterday, Paul is long winded, so for the full scope of what he is saying, we need to read chapters seven and eight of Romans in one sitting, or at least 8:26-39. Today’s verses are merely finishing the thoughts from yesterday’s verses. But today lets focus on the traditional emphasis and primary thought rather than the backdrop of suffering that we examined yesterday. If you come from a loving Christian home with a father who perfectly exemplified the love of God, then the full power of this passage goes right by you, since your heart takes it for granted that God, like your human father, will love you no matter what.

For the rest of us, we can’t recite this to our hearts often enough. Often in this world even small petty things can separate us from someone’s love. People judge by outward appearances and from limited, incomplete knowledge. And those of us from emotionally abusive backgrounds* often allow others to define who we are, letting every criticism sink deep into our psyche. We let others with their words and deeds tell us we’re not good enough. And Satan comes along and whisperers in our ears, if this sinner cannot love someone as filthy and flawed as we are, however could a holy God love us? So we hide in shame and separate from Him.

Next time quote this passage to the enemy. God’s ways are not Man’s ways. His ways are higher. Nothing can separate us from God’s love, least of all the judgments of  others he created. Sin separates us from God, but not from his love, and the cross stands ready to reconcile us. We must not forget that context of the promise given here. Get it under the blood, turn from your wicked way, and return to the Father watching down the road, ready to run to you with open arms. Come to Him, weary one, He will give you rest. Let Him tell you today who you are.

God, strengthen our boundaries today, so we will allow you alone to define who we are and stand firm in what you have said about us. We pray we would be sure of your promises to us and confident in your love. Forgive us our trespasses and grant us forgiving hearts free of bitterness today. Cleanse us, Lord, and keep our eyes on you. Let us not forget Gethsemane or Golgotha. Remind us of who you are–remind us of who you created us to be. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

*This includes loving homes where our parents were abused as children and have simply passed down their own dysfunctional attitudes to us.