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Sincere Love Requires a Purified Heart

“Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.” (1 John 3:18)

Love is a physical feeling or emotional sentiment to much of the world, and an empty action or, worse, words about action to too many in the church. Feeling and sentiment alone do no one any good. Words and promises alone do no one any good, but likewise neither does loving actions and a smile on the face while bitterness and anger linger in the heart.

One of the chief reasons we struggle to consistently love is because we’ve relegated love to mere behavior. If we harbor anger and bitterness and resentment in our hearts, life will give us plenty of excuses to be passive aggressive, procrastinate, and avoid the act or the person altogether. It is also true that we can genuinely find ourselves flooded, or we may have physical conditions that make it difficult for us prioritize tasks and control our behavior and impulses in the flesh.

At some point, we need to let love motivate us to stop letting life and our weaknesses push us around, come to the cross, examine our hearts, and lay out before the Lord honestly what we’re really feeling rather than going through the motions. Only there can we get rid of the weights and toxins that hinder us and be filled with his love and forgiveness and grace. That is the place where we can receive spiritual wisdom and the fruit of self-control, the power we need to be transformed and the strength we need to do his will,  to synchronize our heart to beat more in time with God’s and obey out of trust, love for God, and a genuine desire to do righteousness.

Lord, forgive us for pretending and going through the motions. We pray our love for you and others would be genuine and selfless. Search us, Lord, and show us what is truly in our hearts, and strengthen our relationship with you, bring us to a place where we will be comfortable confessing the “bad emotions” that poison us to you. Draw out of us everything that hinders us from loving both in deed and in truth. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Christians Known By Love, But Defined by Truth

“for “All flesh is like grass and all its glory like the flower of grass. The grass withers, and the flower falls, but the word of the Lord remains forever.” And this word is the good news that was preached to you.” (1 Peter 1:24-25)

An internet meme asserts that Jesus said Christians will be known by their love, not by their doctrine. Even pastoral sermons can fall into this trap. Yes, trap.

The problem with this meme is two fold. One, it presents a false dichotomy, pitting love and truth against each other. The scriptures on Christian love are a vital part of sound doctrine. You don’t have sound doctrine if you don’t have sincere Christian love. Secondly, the idea that you can have true Christian love without sound doctrine is a lie based on cherry picking scriptures, taking them out of their context as our verse of the day does. Verses 22-23 read:

2Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love,  love one another earnestly from a pure heart,  since you have been born again, not of perishable seed but of imperishable, through the living and abiding word of God;

So after asserting we are to be holy (verse 15) and we are told the sincere love we are to be known by is a product (fruit) of being purified of sin through obedience to the truth. Christian love comes from a pure heart, of being born again through the imperishable seed of the Word. It is in that context we are reminded that, though our lives in the corrupt sinful fallen bodies of the present are like grass and fading, the word of the Lord remains forever.

Further this, according to Peter, is the very gospel itself, the good news that the apostles preached and that authentic Christianity still preaches to this day. Not love above truth at any cost, as some false teachers espouse, but rather love born of truth and eternal life itself from being born again of the truth, by faith, through God’s grace at work in us, not of our own efforts, lest any boast.

Christ our Lord said, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life” not “I am the Love.” Yes, we are known by our love, but we are defined by the truth. Our love binds us to Christ and one another, and it is certain that we don’t even know what love is until we stand at the foot of his cross where God’s love sent his son to die for traitors. But it is the truth that sets us free from the bondage of sin, which is what divides us and creates bitterness, anger, malice, confusion, selfishness, and all manner of unloving behavior. It is equally crucial to have true doctrine and sincere love for God and one another. Truth and Love are conjoined twins. Damage to the one inevitably impacts the other.

The most grave damage from divorcing love from truth is that, to be consistent, one must claim the Apostles who wrote the bulk of the New Testament, and preached “love one another,” were themselves judgmental hate mongers. In the pages of scripture, the apostles thrash Christian sects whose doctrine differs with their own, denouncing the adherents as heretics and the leaders as false teachers leading people astray from God. Paul encourages us to imitate him, even, and makes no exception for his combative defense of sound doctrine.

Per the world’s definition of love, we must conclude the apostles were wrong to judge the very salvation of those who disagreed with their doctrines. Instead of fighting with these “false teachers” and their followers, they should have done as we do and embraced them as saved fellow Christians who loved Christ as much as they did and simply had different views on scripture than the apostles.

Students of history will be aware the Church has long disobeyed the apostles’ doctrine and murdered each other over disputable matters. The definition of love in reaction to this evil, however, shows its own demonic origins by subtly standing in judgment against the very bible those taken captive by this lie claim their love and faith are based on. It is double-minded inconsistency to embrace the authority of the apostles to write scripture on one side of the mouth and on the other stand in judgment against those God appoints today as defenders of the faith and promoters of the spread of the apostles’ soul-saving doctrine.

Lord, give us wisdom to know your truth and discern the error that tugs on our ears and sounds so good. Give us a desire to grow in holiness and sound doctrine as well as the love and grace and forgiveness that spring up from maturing in the truth. Prick our hearts with conviction when we detach the flower of love from the vine of truth, for blooms detached from their roots quickly die and fade away, and branches that do not flower and bear fruit will be cut off and burned. Either way, keep us safe and growing in you. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Take Cover From Evil in God’s Word

“You are my hiding place and my shield; I hope in your word.” (Psalm 119:114)

This verse follows the statement, “I love your law,” thus it is reasonable this sentence offers a reason why:  in the pages of scripture he finds shelter in  it’s consistent,  unchanging, dependable definition of right and wrong, and its testimonies of God’s actions in history on the behalf of his people, and the promises we inherit from our spiritual forefathers. Through this, and the hope/faith it builds in him, he finds protection and deliverance–from what?

Likely, the double-minded, wicked evil-doers he wants away from, double-minded indicating they waver between two opinions, so he’s talking about fellow believers who talk the talk, but don’t always walk the walk and are apparently hindering him somehow, perhaps tempting him to turn away from what he knows to be true and right. After all, they seem to be getting away with it. He reminds himself here that is not true, those who know the truth and deliberately forsake it to go after the deceptions of sin will be held to account by God.

Of course, under the new covenant, we know God ultimately doesn’t want us holding back from evil in  trembling dread of God’s wrath, as the psalmist does. He wants us to go beyond the fear of the Lord, look to the cross, remember what Jesus paid to set us free from sin, and obey out of love and trust.

Love like Brothers, Compete like Godly ones

“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” (Romans 12:10)

 

These instructions come to us in the midst of similar instructions. At first glance, we are tempted to think context offers us no additional insights. But let’s look again anyway at the immediate context:

Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.  Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. (Romans 12:9-11)

See it now? Again we have a careful balance between truth and love:  Being sincere, real, loathing evil/sin, doing good–but also loving one another as much as we love our natural siblings, but competitively seeking to one up each other only in terms of preferring each other before our selves, serving one another, and showing respect for one another (all being tied up in the concept of honor as I understand it.) We are not to be lazy in our pursuit of God, but fiery hot, even shining or glowing in our spirit as we serve the lord. (Thank you, m-w.com)

Again, as we noted in a similar passage from James, Paul treats the qualities we associate with those too heavy on truth as the book ends of love, wrapping love inside truth in a way that suggests these should all be inseparable qualities held together as a whole, not one side barking at the other. Truth isn’t true without love; and love isn’t loving without truth.

Lord, strengthen us, to be truthful in our expressions of love and loving in our handling of the truth. Grant us grace to love our spiritual family with the affection we have for our natural family. Check us in our spirits, and change our hearts, that we should strive and compete against each other only in how we lay our arms down and seek what is best for the other person, the rest of the family, first before ourselves. Deliver us from fear. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Nail Pierced Hands, Wounded Side: This is Love.

By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers.” (1 John 3:16)

What is love? John tells we learn what love is at the cross. Jesus and Paul both tell us that to love god and to love others fulfills all the laws and regulations handed down to us in the scriptures.  We love, John tells us elsewhere, because Christ first loved us. To love is to sacrifice and put others needs (not their wants) before our own. Scripture places the greatest burden here upon the leaders in our communities: fathers, husbands, pastors, employers, office holders on all levels. Those most likely to lord it over us and twist this scripture to demand others sacrifice themselves to meet their demands stand condemned before the cross, where the greatest of all became the servant of all and laid down his life.

We all stand equal before Christ, because all of us are equally compelled to lay down our lives and submit to one another in love. Let us emulate Christ, gentle readers, but also let us  also call those over us to account for their sin when they would wickedly crush under foot and devour the flock in the holy name of Christ, lest his name be blasphemed.

We thank you, Lord, for your salvation, and example, on the cross. We pray as leaders and as otherwise, we would emulate your example. Give us wisdom to choose, in every arena, leaders who love their people as you do. Grant us wisdom on when and how to lovingly hold to account leaders who blaspheme your name by actions that do not align with the law of love. Check us in our own spirits when we are not loving others as you first loved us. In Jesus’ precious name we pray, amen.

Who is Your life? Christ!

“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,” (Colossians 3:12)

Then tells us we need to ask: why are we, God’s chosen holy and beloved ones to put on compassion, kindness, meekness and patience? What are we missing by not asking why?

The answer to that question for this verse, and to the same question regarding an earlier list of  sinful inclinations of our fallen flesh that we’re to put to death, is found in verses 1-4 and 11:

If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory. Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all.

We are to put on those virtues because:

  • We have been raised with Christ and should be focused on His kingdom (be heavenly minded) rather than the things of this world.
  • We have died (to sin and need to replace it with something else.)
  • Christ is our life, not our work, not our hobbies, not our spouse, or even your children if you have any. If they are,  we’re making them an idol that we need to die to and learn to hate them compared to our love for Christ, or Jesus said we’re not worthy of Him.
  • All Christians equal regardless of ethnicity, race, economic status, or class. The context of this one is don’t lie to each other because we’ve put off the old ways and put on the new described in verse 12.

Praise God then that our new ways are being renewed by knowledge, the most key of which is, as verse tells us, we are to put on virtue because verse ten tells us doing so restores us in the image of our creator. In other words, Christ has a compassionate heart and is kind, humble, meek and patient.

So stop avoiding him to hide from the false image of a distant, angry father, young lady (to preach to myself.)

Father, forgive our lack of understanding and for any idols we’ve placed before you. Strengthen us to crucify the flesh and walk in your ways. We place our trust in you today. We look up to you today. We thank you for choosing us and calling us your beloved. We thank you for your compassion and love. We lift up to you all anger and earthly lusts keeping us from being like you today, and we name specific concerns as you bring them to mind now: ____  We release it all into your just hands and we open our hearts to recieve a renewal of our spirits into imageo deo, the image of God we were originally  created in .In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Balancing Act

Do not hate a fellow Israelite in your heart. Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in their guilt. Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD. Lev 19:17,18

Quite odd verses to put together. It appears to be saying: Don’t hate your fellow Christian in your heart, but rebuke them openly, for looking the other way at sin makes you complicit in it. Don’t take revenge or bear grudges, but love your neighbor as yourself. It’s odd to us because we have often been led to believe by the world that love does look the other way, that love is open minded and tolerant and accepting. A love that calls sin what it is and shows others their faults (between you and  him alone) while being gracious, forgiving, bearing no grudge and seeking no retribution leaves heads scratching whichever way we tend to fail in this area.

Narrow is the way? No kidding, sometimes I’m not sure if the Lord’s way is more a balance beam or a high wire act. But I know we are working with a net.

Lord, thank you for your grace. I pray we would not take advantage, but seek to walk in grace and love as you define it. Give us boldness and wisdom to what to speak and when. Show us any anger or frustration or bitterness we need to open up to you about and release to you  today, so we can love others as you love us. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.